This brings me to my point…
Choices are becoming more and more selfish, more self-desiring, more self-indulging. But who is to blame for these choices when humans are the ones making them? Nowadays, it seems like when one makes a decision, the result should benefit only him or her. And upon making that decision, the factor of the decision should only constitute that single person, and not ONE person other than them. Selfishness, I should say, is the root of all evil. Mostly everyone has fear of one another. Not the basic fear of one being greater, but the fear that roots from a cynical mentality of others achieving their dreams. Selfishness, places grudges upon each other, selfishness places a periphery in which one is bound to his own constraints. When one forgets his own outcome in order to bring down others, these constraints label one at the pinnacle of their selfishness.
But it seems like I’m babbling on different aspects of selfishness…
Dependence
Most people regard dependence as a weakness, but is it really when there is no other option?
Take into consideration, one human in need of another’s ability. Should you say, that human is dependent on others, because he does not have the ability himself? Is that human not forced to be dependent? Because in the end, isn’t being dependent on others just a way to bring yourself to an ultimate downfall? So would you really blame the human for not being self-sufficient?
If blamed…
Does that human not have the right to deny it? Does he not have the right to argue to the point of fury? When that point of anger and frustration is reached, can you really blame him?
When put into the real world, many convey the message of being self-sufficient at a particular age factor. Mentality and personality would depend on that age factor to vary enormously from person to person, would it not? Societal labels are a way to portray one’s weakness when they might not even exist.
Now follow along closely because labeling someone of dependency is closely related to selfishness... For some, that is...
Rooting back to the fundamental of a selfish choice, this fundamental is rooted from the choice made when a human is to label another as dependent of others. To some it might be to their advantage (selfishness). When you ignite a weakness in someone by labeling them as dependent of others, they lose an integral part of themselves and this way that human being has become lesser then the selfish one.
Whether you agree or not, you cannot deny the fact it is true for some if not most.
Just my two cents.
Oh, but then again...why two cents, when it's only "a penny for your thoughts?"
2 comments:
selfishness, jealousy etc. are the basic instinctive features of human nature. Humans need them to survive in this world; remember 'survival of the fittest' evolutionary theory.
In any case, you can't really predict the underlying basis of someone's response merely based on his/her response. You might have forgotten to look at all the circumstances or if those circumstances were evident then you might not have understood that other person may not have been aware of the importance of your request. It is usually the poor communication that creates ridges among relationships. If the other person is a close person, I wouldn't suggest you judge him/her on the scale of such attributes as selfishness or jealousy, because these are the underlying reasons only in rare cases. When you start thinking like that, you'll have hard time trusting your loved ones and trust is the root to successful and happy relationships. I know it seems like the other person is being selfish in not helping you but always look at the reasons for why he/she behaved in that way, you might feel him/her to be justified based on his/her situation.
Next time, make sure to communicate properly even if the other person lacks the skill of good communication you should take it in your hands to make sure you make yourself and your need for there assistance clear, but always remain very positive in your manner. You have to keep your temper under check even if the person in front of you doesn't. Remember it requires two hands to clap and you don't want one of those hands to be yours.
Did I even make sense?
I just realized I may not write as good as you but one thing is common that I also tend to get carried away when I start to pen down my thoughts and feelings. I wonder why, bro :)
I agree with you and you did make sense. Next time i'll keep that in mind...
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